If we are in a discussion and a person starts a personal attack on another person it can mean that instead of keeping to the subject the person cannot argue (or win) so they become abusive towards the opponent in a hope that the opponent will get upset and say something wrong and lose the argument/debate.
Name calling or being abusive in a conversation is a reflection of a person’s lack of confidence, insecurities, and lack of good argument.
If we enter a debate, discussion, argument etc, we should do it with the intent on adding useful “discussion matter” that will add to the value of what is being said, and will help people learn, and come to a useful conclusion.
Too many people (often was me in the past) go into an argument to prove ones own wisdom and to boost personal pride.
But if a person has wisdom, knowledge and a good understanding of the conversation he or she will understand other people’s point of views, and only add content that will stimulate further interesting and useful information and at the same time be seen as someone who knows what he or she is talking about, and will be welcome to any conversation worth its salt.
°
In all communication there is absolutely no need for any form of name-calling or abuse. Any form of putting the other person down is a sure sign of “Fear of losing the argument” and “trying to bully ones way to looking superior” so that the victim will become submissive and give up the fight (as always).
°
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Sunday, 6 March 2016, 9:21:03 AM.