I was reading some quotes about faking life and some from rock stars and actors saying that faking things was the right way to go. One was if you have a choice between faking life or acting its better to fake life.
Any form of faking is dishonesty to us or to others. We may be faking our feelings to other people and God knows and sees this. We may fake our relationships at work, or with our family to keep the peace or for whatever reason.
Honesty is talking about things before they get out of hand. Faking things is one of those things where we start to fake and then it becomes a habit and we do it without even thinking about it because we have accepted it as a part of life.
Be careful when being honest and not hurting peoples feelings as best as you can but do work towards self evaluation and trying to discover false things about yourself and correct them. There should be no “acting” in your life – even on the job be your natural loving self, Kind and generous and willing to do a good job being naturally who you are. Customers prefer people being natural and not faking their friendliness and care.
Being honest means being really honest and faking nothing. We live in a society that promotes faking relationships and faking who we are. Peer pressures has teenagers doing things that they originally never wanted to do. The workforce has us faking smiles at work and acting in manner we may not act at home.
Our racial cultures demand that we do things that we don’t want to do, but the family do it so we must too. Family try to get us to do things that we don’t want to do. There is no courage or inner-growth when we are not being honest with ourself or not being honest with other people.
A girl falling deeply in love with a guy but faking that she doesn’t like him to satisfy other peoples wishes is faking her heart-felt feelings.
A guy studying a subject because his parents demand it of him is faking it. My father wanted to be a pilot but became a plumber because his father demanded it of him and then years later my father wanted me to be a plumber like him – I told him no even though it hurt his feelings because even as a teenager I couldn’t fake being someone I wasn’t. I was learning but I couldn’t do something that wasn’t me and that I didn’t enjoy.
When we are teenagers and we are still trying to get some idea of who we are we can easily be seduced into things that we are not. We are excited about life and we want to try things out and our friends tell us to have a go and that we won’t regret it until we finally conform to the rules of teenage society, the mates, gangs etc. But its not who we really are – it is who everyone else is trying to be.
It takes courage to stand alone – it takes courage to be who you really are and to tell other people that you are who you are and that they need to back off and let you have time to your self and give you the chance to find your self. There is no rush.
Cigarettes, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, gangs, and other physical and emotional abuses are very unnatural and if we do these unnatural things they we are conforming to the ways of the crowd and not standing alone as Jesus taught us to be.
Teenagers and adults should be aware that some people smoke cigarettes, some take drugs, some abuse alcohol, some do this and that, so we can say “No!” to all these things because we want to be that one that doesn’t do all of that. Be honest. If taking drugs or self abuse is what you need to do to be accepted by “friends’ then its better to go find other friends or even be alone for a while rather than use self abuse to be popular with the crowd who abuse themselves.
To stand alone gives us self confidence and makes us feel strong and we turn away from offers of addictions and things that harm us. We are also strong enough to look at the crowd and want not to be like them because we know that in the long run faking our life is not good, its dishonest and not who we really are. To enjoy life we must relax and be who we really feel to be, be with the ones we need to be with. It may take some years to discover our real self so why not do it peacefully and calmly.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
12 of October 2012.