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The Value of having Good Manners.
If a person shows good manners (behaves in a polite respectful manner), and makes an effort to be respectful people will enjoy having that person around them and will also respect such a soul.
Getting in to the habit of saying, “Please” and “Thank you” gives a signal across to people that you are in fact a nice person, you care about them, when you say, “Thank you!” you are letting people know that you are thankful for whatever that person did for you. It also means that you appreciate what that person did.
Part of being polite is saying, “Thank you!” and being ignored, but having the maturity and wisdom to know that all people’s characters are not the same and that some people will not be polite back. The good news for you in this situation is to realise that people “signal” to you who they are by their actions, thus this person who is not polite back is subconsciously telling you to not expect the same good behaviour that you have from that person. But always to also remember that your good behaviour would be a good example for that person. So, even if the other person is not polite, you keep being polite anyway.
But always please bear in mind that some people may just be having a bad day and are just not polite because he or she is upset for some reason.
Dealing with people can become rather complex, but that is fine, its just another part of life.
We Teach people How to Behave Towards Us
Please try to keep in mind that what people learn from you and how you make them feel when they are around you, and how you treat other people, tells them what kind of person that you are, and thus you are actually teaching other people how to treat you, and also what to think of you.
An example is that if you are nasty towards someone, you are teaching that person that you are a nasty person, cruel and mean, selfish and a bully.
If you really want an enjoyable life and want to get on with other people, being polite, respectful, and understanding people really helps.
Visiting Other People’s Homes
If the person does not use bad language in that persons home, it is polite for you to not use any bad language or words that would offend that person in that persons home.
I tend to see in my mind that another persons home is their castle and that this person and his or her family are the rulers of that castle, they set the rules, and even if they allow you to smoke or be disrespectful to some degree, a good man won’t be disrespectful.
If you are disrespectful in someone’s else’s home even after they tell you that you can be “as you are’, you are showing them that you are ‘weak-minded” and also you are telling yourself that you are weak minded.
If people know that you do things differently to them, but in their home you show honour and respect for them by following their home rules they will notice that and think highly of you. This is good.
My advice is to always show respect for people in their own home. If you deeply disagree with a persons rules then don’t go to that home.
Please don’t ever put aside your beliefs and feelings for other people, because then you are disrespecting yourself. It is very important that you respect yourself and show
Please always be aware some people will say to you that you can speak and do as you like in their home, and you let loose a bit and they get very angry at you. My advice is to be comfortable, but also be in control and even if those around you act the fool you don’t have to join them. If you don’t act the fool as the others do, you will stand out and be seen by people as good, polite, and in control of yourself.
Listening to People.
It is Polite to Listen to other people when they talk to you. Hearing that person out until he or she finishes talking shows that you care and respect that person – it also shows that person that you would like to be listened to and respected the same way.
Another important part is “taking in” what you are listening to, so much so, that you should be able to talk about what the other person said to you enough to show that you were in fact caring enough to listen to what he or she had said to you.
Realize that people love to be heard, it makes them feel good to know that you care enough to listen, not interrupt, and care enough to want to hear what that person has to say.
Another important thing for you, is that if you listen carefully there may be something that this person is saying to you that could be helpful to you now or in the future. Also, though, what you are being told could help you help the person who is talking to you, so do make it a habit to py attention.
Conversation can mean a lot to the person talking to you, and if this person deeply values your views and beliefs, he or she, will want you to tell that person what you honestly think about what was said to you.
As a child I was not taught about being polite, so a lot of what I discovered was after saying the wrong thing, or offending someone, or not realizing that what was being told to be was a secret and that person respected me enough to tell me and expected me not to say something about it to other people and I did, and then was deeply disliked for talking about it.
Please be aware that a conversation between you and someone else is only between you and that someone else (unless it is illegal).
Also please note that people don’t always tell you not to say anything about what he or she is telling you, so please don’t make the same mistake I made of saying something about it and being hated for it, yet I had no idea that what I was doing was wrong – but it taught me a lesson not to do that again.
Saying Sorry.
People can be very hurt emotionally or even physically by the things that we do. If we say, “Sorry!” it makes a big difference to the person who was put out.
Saying Sorry means also that you care, and that you made a mistake that was not intentional and you regret doing what you did.
We Are All Different.
While we are all human, we all have many variations to our own personal character, if we have certain rules that we follow, like being fair, decent, honest, honourable, we can be different, but also fair, good, worthy, respectful people.
If we all, or most of us, have good manners, are polite, respectful, caring, we can all be of different characters, and shine in our own way, yet still get on as peacefully as we can, while also bringing something new, different and interesting to other people’s lives
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