Torey Hayden had a helper called Whitney. Whitney struggled with confidence, blaming herself for things that went wrong.
One day she did a foolish thing and when she got into trouble her mother game to Torey’s classroom totally freaked out and dragging poor Whitney like she was a little girl. Poor Whitney was devastated and naturally blamed herself harshly.
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This is how I was for many years. I always harshly blamed myself, and the narcissists in my life used that to make me have low confidence and to use me. The narcissist knows that low confidence means a subdued victim that is too frightened to escape. The narcissist does not need a cell to hold their victims, they just need to keep the confidence low on the victim.
As long as the victim blames themself, the narcissist always looks like an angel and to be in control and helping the victim.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Friday, 25 March 2016, 10:33:33 PM.