Helping People grow!
‘Which is that when you’ve been sold a lie it is far more comfortable to continue to hold on to the LIE even if that starts to get quite strained you still want to hold on to the lie because it is more comfortable to stay with the LIE than it is to make the leap of being able to face reality. – Katie Hopkins.
Seeing Things As They Really Are!
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If you say that someone is digging their own grave, you are warning them that they are doing something foolish or dangerous that will cause their own failure. – Collins Dictionary.
[Digging their own grave is] to put yourself in a difficult situation by doing something wrong or making foolish mistakes. – Collins Dictionary.
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The impression is that “digging your own grave” means that the person’s actions are self-destructive or harmful, often without them realizing the full consequences (yet). The mental vision of digging a grave implies that they are creating a situation that will ultimately lead to negative outcomes for themselves, much like preparing for their own demise or their own long term suffering.
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Doing something now, that you did in the past that gave you suffering, shame, self doubts and a broken heart, is like putting your hand on an oven element that is turned on and expecting that it won’t burn you this time.
Don’t Lie to Yourself About Others.
Know people for who they really are and not who you pretend them to be.
People who were brought up in an apathetic home are not capable of loving you because they have never known or experienced love. Sure, they were brought up in a home that supplied food, clothing, good schooling, cars and such, but if the parents are not loving the child of such parents only see’s them as loving – because the child is loving.
But years of living in apathy, commercialism and materialism, the child becomes an adult who looks good, dresses well, has a job, seems stable and good, but has never experienced love – thus such an adult child assumes that he or she knows how to love, and feels very little or no guilt when being cruel, selfish and abusive. To them seduction is a game and the rewards are your struggles and control over you.
The biggest mistake that a loving person can make, is pretending to themselves with positive lies that the person who he or she is seeing is a good loving soul when they really are not.
All the red flags and warnings are there, and the abusive path ahead can be obvious, but the little lies people can tell themselves can convince them that a life with the abuser is the best that they will get.
James M Sandbrook.
Decisions
Don’t lose your cool.
Don’t get angry at yourself.
Don’t physically or mentally abuse yourself.
Understand that you are working toward a “workable” answer, but it may take time to implement it.
Don’t consider yourself weak or evil if you “truly” are attempting to stop this bad or immoral behaviour.
First build yourself up as a person.
Learn to believe in yourself.
Learn to be deeply honest with yourself.
Doing something immoral or bad separates me from God.
James M Sandbrook.
Thursday, 12 August 2004, 12:45:16 am.
Your failures and mistakes are not you.
Your failures and mistakes are not you.
Your failures and mistakes are not you, they are things that you have done, or things that have happened to you and that you may blame yourself for. If you have a problem, addiction, sickness, issues, you never brought it on yourself because somewhere, somehow in the past someone else or some other event made you troubled, sad, confused, lost, addicted and worried.
“You Were Not Born To Crawl Through Life!”
Not Now, Not Ever were you designed to crawl to any addiction, stress, worry or person. You were made to be courageous – a wonderful creation, part of all that beauty and love all around you. You are not a “problem” But you are a Child of God!
You were not born to watch other people tell of their great fun and conquests while you sit and think that you don’t deserve the best that life has to offer. Each and every one of us is a creation of great wonder, spiritually and physically. Humankind put boundaries on this planet, not God. You inherited this world the day that you were born. You inherited the right to courage, love, good people, animals and so much more.
You have a great destiny. Inside you is courage, it is a spark – set it on fire for your own sake – let courage grow inside you and take action, don’t be afraid.
Inside you is strength and the power to live your own life. If you have a problem don’t let other people put you down or label you or run your life for you because you feel weak over this issue that you have. Any problem you have can dealt with in some positive way. All addictions can be cured.
Hang on to that rope called Hope! Hang on tight, and then start pulling yourself up. Stand on your own two feet and find your own answers. Climbing that rope of Hope is doing something for yourself. Something that you need to do for yourself.
Regardless of what other people tell you, no matter whether they are family or friends – they have their own lives. Hang on to your heart. Believe in goodness, love and God. Pull yourself up and be strong in Hope. When you are aware of that talk of failure in your head, lift your chin and focus on the best way to help yourself climb up from this.
“You bring you hope.”
Hope is something to be used. Put hope in your heart.
Hope is dreams that have not become real yet, but have every possibility of coming to being.
Anything can happen in the future, anything. Hope with God. Be with good people.
Keep away from negatives like drugs and alcohol and negative people.
Happiness is in your mind and can be fully achieved.
But it must be achieved with a clear mind that wants peace and harmony – then you will find your dreams. You are worthy of them.
Sometimes life is a mountain that needs climbing. The only way out is to climb it and to climb it with a genuine intention to change something. You have to really want to achieve something for change to take place. You sometimes may have to go up against what others think, the world is full of the lost giving their opinions – leave them be. This is about you. For all of us we have a mountain to climb, and climb it we must. So put on those climbing boots and get walking because life is an action game and to live it and love it you have to be an action figure.
I pray no matter who you are or where you are that your loving Father is there with you walking beside you guiding you.
God believes in you and I know that I do. This is a personal message to a lonely heart, a lost heart, a heart that needs lifting and to learn how to put a shine back into a sad and lost soul.
Lots of love from James M Sandbrook.
Friday, 29 August 2014, 7:31:20 am.
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