We are encouraged to be friends with basically anyone we come across in school.
In the classroom we can be punished for not getting on with someone. Imagine, you have a bully in your street, you go to school, and the teacher tries to force you to take part in activities and be friends with the person who beats you up after school. This causes much confusion and misunderstandings for a child.

If our parents have no real definition of what a fool is, is dysfunctional themselves and irresponsible then they will tell you, as you are growing up, to be friends with people who other people would tell you to avoid.

Growing up is when a child is taught how to learn, how to think, what to accept, what one should not accept, and how to be responsible.

If the child is not shown how to be responsible, only knows parent-approved people whoa re irresponsible in day-to-day living, then the child will not be able to tell the difference between being responsible and irresponsible – and if their adult heroes as they are growing up are dysfunctional, irresponsible and toxic, the youngsters will come to see those people as fun, courageous, and who they would like to be when they become adults.

Its all about blending in with people in a day to day life who are influential enough to groom (intentionally or not) the children to become carbon copies of the irresponsible adults. We need to understand that irresponsible adults see no wrong in themselves, so they would love to help your children to become like them.

When we grow up and are in the company of such foolish and irresponsible people we are living what we assume is the good life. We can be reckless, unloving but assume that we are loving (A foolish person is often a person who thinks of themselves in a good way yet is actually the opposite – “The fool thinks he is good company for your family”), and we can enjoy the habits of the irresponsible, such as drinking alcohol, parties, going to drinking places, partaking in drug abuse, casual sex, maybe can’t hold a job down and so on.

When one of you wants to break away from such a lifestyle, yet stays friends with the foolish, it is impossible to become knew whilst embracing the old.
The foolish and irresponsible of which we hold so dear to our own foolish hearts refuse to let us go to a lifestyle that they do not understand, and thus like seducing demons they keep tempting us, talking us out of wanting to change, they offer us free drinks, parties, events, drugs, casual sex, whatever they can to keep us as they are, and as you are but you are trying to escape from.