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Some of us, in fact many people, are Immature people in Adult body. Physically, and even intelligently we are mature, but Mentally due to an unfinished, abusive or struggled childhood these people do not mature as others did.
Their physical body grown, they can do their job efficiently, yet they act immaturely.Â
An example is that two Mature People can see that each has talent, is good at something and the other may struggle at.
The Immature Person can see that he or she has talents, is good at many or most things, and that anyone who they think lower than them has no talents, period (They have formed an opinion of this person and thats that).
This is the Immature way of seeing things. Its irrational, ego and pride driven, and can result in emotional outbursts, insults or rage if the immature person feels threatened, or worried that he or she may be losing their importance in someone else’s lives.
The Immature Person can be the star of their group, but when one of their group rises in the others eyes the immature person becomes jealous, angry, and targets the other person.Â
To the Immature Person only one person can be admired and thats himself or others he approves of.
We need to remember that the experts state that all people are Narcissistic to some degree.
An Immature Person can be obvious when you join a business and the manager is abusive, especially when you show promise or that you are as good, or heaven forbid better than the manager.
Because Narcissistic people are in fact Immature not completely developed to maturity they struggle to cope with other people’s importance or their talents and so on.
Immature People see Mature People as a threat. Immature People see themselves as mature so they struggle to understand what the Mature Person is all about.
The Immature Person can hate and feel that hate is justified just because he or she “feels it”.
Immature People can be Ego-Driven. To such a soul this is their special Ego-Feed, their feeling of personal self importance, that makes them feel worthy, creative, better than others – but is very Pride Driven.
Mature People, are often seen as a threat.
But in reality anyone that the Immature People see as equal or better than them in some area that is real or they imagine is a cause for the Immature Person to panic and then attack.
Gaslighting is the obvious way to attack someone who is deemed a threat to the ego-driven Immature Person.
If the person, work mate, etc is showing promise, growth, or has been discovered to have talents, putting that person down is an effective way to make the Immature Person feel that ego-feed, and also lower the other persons self-esteem, so much so that the Immature Person feels that he or she has accomplished something very good, and it brings back feelings of importance.
The Immature Person often has feelings of self importance and grandeur, and if one can assume that status within his or her own mind, they assume that they are better than others. So, anyone coming on to the scene that shines can become a threat.
One example is of a father who thinks very grand of himself, yet he was not a great father. If there is someone who he knows and he pridefully looks down on that one of his own children tells him that they like and listen to, the father will see red instead of being grateful that the child is getting helped.Â
Not that an Immature Person see’s things not as they are, but as an Immature Mind can perceive them. Thus, they react in such a way that is not rational or common sense, and very possibly hit onto a version of anger/rage (like road rage) and do themselves more damage because they emotionally lost their cool.
Narcissistic people (who are Immature in many ways)Â create groups of people around them, to support the Narcissist, but the group has no idea of this. When needed these members of the group do as they are expected to do, and that is to remain blindly-loyal to the Narcissist – if they are not loyal to the Narcissist, all childish hell breaks out with anger, tantrums and such – so to avoid such events the members of the group obey readily in fear of unfair retribution.
In the toxic family with both or one parent who is a Narcissist, the family unit becomes the Narcissist-Pod, the group of followers that the Narcissist Parent grooms to obey, and to attack anyone who attacks the parents.
Narcissist parents hate to let their adult-children get on with their lives, thus they want a constant input in to their lives. Sadly, in order for the adult-children to obey, they must be weak-minded, and thus Immature – because if they were Mature they would see their parents as they truly are and escape.Â
You can understand Immature people by how they react to events that are real or that they have imagined them to be.
A woman can be talking to someone at an event and her boyfriend or husband can accuse her or the man of all sorts of things in a rage of fury. Or at some time in the future take it out on the innocent man because the childish adult imagined that a relationship was forming and that his wife or girlfriend was spending attention with the other man.
When the Immature person feels threatened he or she can attack (most likely verbally) the innocent person who they feel threatened by, and then whe innocent person obvioulsy defends his or her self, and the Immature person then goes back to his or her pretrained/groomed followers and sets them all on to the innocent perosn, and in doing that and destroying the innocent person the Narcissist can then feel like he or she has accomplished something wonderful and that all those in the pod love the Narcissist.
The reality is that those in the pod are only there because they were groomed and manipulated there, and in many ways imprisoned by loyalty to a person who is not loyal to them.
Narcissists Struggle to Accept Fault in Themselves.
If you find that you are dealing with a person who has a very high opinion of themselves, and refuses to see fault in what they do or at least they refuse to see fault in themslves when you explain something that they have done wrong, then you are probably dealing with a Narcissist who acts immaturily and who refuses to see what you see in them.
Consider the child who does something wrong but refuses to see it. In fact that child may yell at the parents, become frustrated because he or she cannot do something because the adult says, “No!”
That child may be told that he or she is behaving badly, but the Immature mind of the child see’s themselves as the good guy, and that must mean that the adult has made a mistake and the adult is at fault and the child storms off angry.
Now consider the adult who is doing the same thing – this is what an adult is like when Immature. This person may be very good at his or her job, be educated, creative, but when dealing with people, managing people, there can be serious problems, that sometimes end up in anger and refusal to understand that anything is wrong with them.
Their mind tells them that they are an adult, that they are educated, clever, therefore they must be mature. They can also only want to hear, or know, how good they are, how they do well, and so on, thus they refuse to hear anything negative about themselves.Â
But like the alcoholic that refuses to believe that she has a drinking problem, if the person refuses to believe that they have an issue, addiction, fault, this person will not do anything to fix what problem that they have.
Narcissists, as I mentioned above, have pods or groups of people around them for a constant ego-feed and constant approval.
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These people in these groups know all to well not to say bad things about the Narcissist, or to tell the Narcissist the truth about any character faults that the Narcissist has. So, to the Narcissist, he or she is always getting constant proof that there is nothing wrong with them, so if they clash with someone, they see the person who they clash with as wrong and they also expect their approval-group to be on their side, even if the Narcissist is in fact the one in the wrong.
Because the people surrounding the Narcissist never tell the Narcissist the truth about themselves, the Narcissist remains deluded living in a false belief that they are better than others – to them the facts (that no one points out there faults) prove their opinion of themselves.
Often the people who are part of the Narcissist Pod will eventually figure out that life with the Narcissist is toxic and they tire of Immature behaviour and move on.Â
The Narcissist seldom figures out that the issue is them and they create another group to feed their ego and it all starts all over again.
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