We should all want to be mature. But I found as a teenager that my friends sometimes disliked mature people because they were seen as older people, or boring. Mature people are capable, stable and helpful amongst many other things.
A person who can deal with simple living is a mature stable person. We see around us once in a while a person who cannot deal with a common situation without fears, yelling, or being abusive when they lose, or attacking the person and not the subject. We find people who seem angry all the time, or pessimists, or depressed unhappy people struggling to understand life – these people are all struggling to deal with a normal life. They struggle to do everyday things without some unbalanced emotional feelings throwing their day off-balance.
On Facebook we post a simple message on a certain Facebook page and some people reply, discuss and do well, and some go crazy. The subject deeply upsets them and they say outrageous things. They are not in control of their emotions and to onlookers they look very foolish.
In normal life people that are mean, spiteful, revengeful, nasty, hateful, demanding, controlling, narcissistic, aggressive, cruel, are all immature unbalanced people that have weaknesses. If they were in control of their lives and themselves then they would have no need for the negative tools.
You will see in your life a person who is calm and ready to accept any situation and do what is needed and required with a reasonably calm mind and you can be amazed. Those types of people have always amazed me. I know now that I have learned more about life that I lean far more towards maturity than I ever did before in my life. But it takes a while to learn, and one needs to learn first that they have a problem in the first place.
To handle life in a mature way is to be able to deal with the situations that arise as they do and deal with them while still maintaining a good attitude, hope, and positive that he or she can deal with the situation, and even muster up some humour in rough times.
People who are mature like a good joke, but they are in control of the level of what is funny or not,. And that is because mature people have borders around their feelings or how far they will go when they accept mental input from other people. They refuse to cross the borders to gross, cruelty, etc. They know that those things are a curse to the world and are not funny.
They do not offend people on purpose, but they can offend people while standing strong on the principles that they believe in.
To mature people their beliefs are not taken lightly. They cannot be bought by money, and they live by their values. They are responsible, and are totally independent of all influences that cause weakness’s. People cannot tempt them to do what is against their good values or good work ethics.
They are in control of the negative feelings like ego. This is because they have come to an understanding that ego is dangerous, causes trouble, loses friends and is putting oneself higher than others.
Mature people are kind, good and charitable because they see the value in helping others. If their life is in a blessed state they don’t let that make them feel better than others. Instead they use what abundance that they have and share it with the less fortunate. They are givers and don’t try to take. If they fall on hard times they are willing to receive, because they know that this is the right thing to do in that situation.
They are not limited and controlled by sexual weaknesses. They see lust as dangerous and a marriage destroyer. So they see the wisdom in only being interested in the person that they love, that is their only focus sexually.
They are able to tell the difference between fact and lies. Gossip in the world is popular because the masses have become excited about stories about people, and it does not seem to matter if the story is true or false. And this is a weakness.
Wise people see the damage listening to gossip, they see the damage from liars, and the damage from suggestive remarks designed to harm others, and they avoid such people and prefer to take in facts with proof, and they don’t judge their friends or a situation until they have facts. They follow their instincts and trust themselves to get things right.
Mature people see the wisdom in good, and the weakness and bad returns from being bad.
Mature people, because of their ability to control their emotions and to live a clean healthy lifestyle are healthy and happier in the life that they can deal with. They don’t overstress, and that means that they don’t stress their heart, mind, body and soul.
The good news is that we can become mature or more mature at any time in our life. And it is not our own fault if we have issues at present that cause us to lose control or not be able to deal with a common situation that other people are dealing with calmly. As long as we keep trying things will get better for us.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
8th of May 2015.