All of us should learn to give up on attachment.
Materialism, working for money (not love), a constant life of attack from all quarters to buy the latest products etc, has is becoming attached to “things”. We can create dependencies.
We can also become very attached to people. I have seen so many people attached to family because of traditional reasons, pressure from other family, because they are insecure, needy and clingy, unconfident etc. And yet, in these cases the family is the worst thing for these people.
As we go through the process of self improvement it is wise to find out what controls us, if anything, and then remove that control over our life. You may be surprised to find that what you thought you had control of, is actually in control of you.
To be free we need to be able to walk away from people, things, hobbies, habits, without a struggle.
For instance, twice in my life I have given up alcohol. Both times were when my ex-wife left me. I have not had alcohol for around 11 years now. I have no problem not drinking coffee. I have no hobbies that control me. I have no sports that I must watch on TV. I don’t do drug abuse, I don’t smoke. I take the odd painkiller, yet currently I have 3 painful medical problems, that 1 would have some people confined to bed in pain with many painkillers.
I am not in need of sympathy, pats on the head, adoration, and I don’t suck up to anyone. Get the point?
There is bound to be something that I have an attachment to, and that I must remove.
A husband and wife attachment is natural, and unless there is narcissistic behavior, that kind of relationship is healthy for both.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Tuesday, 12 January 2016, 9:23:03 AM.