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Men, Woman And Love – Some thoughts on this complex area of life for human beings.
Dating – Some tips.
Physical and Non-Physical Relationships – Some advice for those wanting true love.
The Wholesome Way – Example of getting together the wholesome way.
The Three Steps To Heaven – Three steps that show you how to find true love.
Defining Love – About love and what it is.
Without a partner of the opposite gender we are not complete. We cannot operate as soulfully complete humans without the love commitment of the opposite sex. We need the opposite gender to operate at the soulful level we were created to operate at. A man is not complete without a woman, as a woman is not complete without a man. The commitment that they have for each other is total and complete. Man and woman are a gift to each other from God and they are to be treasured by each other. They can help each other with guidance, friendship and love.
One of my goals in life is to find that genuine partner and I will be very pleased that I will have stopped looking for my soul-mate. And when I get her (and I know that I will) she will be just what I wanted and just what I need. As amazing as it sounds I am telling you that God will choose her for me, because I asked God for her and God sees things that I don’t, God knows my nature and the things that make me tick, and he will also know the same things about her. This beat’s a dating service any day. In fact Today’s Christian dating services are an insult and should never be considered by faithful Christians.
Just think, I will never need to be lonely. The search will be over and love will be found. This is the love between two people that will never die because these two people are made for each other. I don’t worry about my own loneliness, because I have total confidence that she is coming and will be with me soon.
I have grown tired of the never-ending search for true love. After a few relationships that seemed to start well and then end with no gain made by the two people involved. Feelings are hurt, time goes by. The search for true love in today’s society seems to be so fruitless and heartless. The spiritual side of love appears to be ignored and people like ants in their nest go this way and that, bumping into each other hoping that ‘this will be the one’ and the search goes on…
True love and relationships are a very complex thing and to devote them purely to the physical side is to ignore the other side, the spiritual side. Ignoring anything in true love is a mistake because love can never become a reality if its true complexity is not understood and nurtured. Love must be fed physically and spiritually on a constant basis, just like a house plant. If the feeding stops, the plant dies, and so does love.
We are all as an individual one of Gods creations – we are one. And we are one with God, one with the world and nature and one with ourself and one with our family. Each individual male and female is in essence and physically was made to do certain tasks in the world and in our family. Each ones importance is just as important as each other, and should never be put down for their importance. But each one of us should know our importance and what we are and what we are supposed to do as a person, male or female. Our growth as a person depends on who we are – male and female. To hide the truth of what we are is to hide the truth of our existence.
When a female or male tries to be otherwise or tries to act in a different manner to what they are naturally born, they are defeating their own life and defeating their birthright to be as they were born. Who else could you possibly be if you are not who you were born to be? You were only to be born as you and nobody else or anybody else’s gender. To try to act as something else is to hide your spiritual and mental growth as a human being, it will deny you of who you really are and limit your strength as the person you were meant to be, the person that exists in your birth blueprint.
A woman is a person and in many respects she is like a male. She is human, she has emotions, she walks and talks, thinks and does many other things that males do. She has proven that she is strong and courageous, but not in the militant feminist fields of war against their fellow men who they were born alongside of, but in real wars and in situations where she rose to the occasion to protect her young, her family, her husband and her existence.
She has additional physical and spiritual equipment to continue the human race, something a man could never do. Her importance is beyond the importance of a man in this area and without woman the recreation of mankind could never continue. A woman needs to discover what makes her what she is and what makes her important to the whole experience of being human. Woman need to stop blaming men because the woman was born a female. If woman can accept those facts then she should be able to accept the fact that she was born female and that is what she needs to accept to enjoy all the happiness that God created her for.
A man and a woman were born to work together in harmony. The physical and spiritual connection between the two is the most perfect unit ever created on this planet because of their ability to think and love beyond all other living creatures on Earth. To deny this connection is to deny what God created them for. To deny this connection is to deny the harmony of life and love itself. But they can only be the most perfect unit ever created if they are together in true harmony, with true love as the foundation of their relationship. To try in any other way is to hope that all will be alright, but not to know.
The internals of a relationship between a man and woman are as mystical and intricate as the universe. The complex nature of this connection of two people is compounded with a physical need to be near one another and yet be spiritual enough to want to be close to each other yet physically apart. True love is like a taste of honey melting in your mouth which turns into clear crisp running water down your throat in the middle of an extremely hot day. Your love is your refresher, advisor and friend.
The Christian relationship between a man and woman is heavily based on respect for each other and the belief that God has blessed their relationship with love from Heaven. This blessing is very special and it helps remind the two that God is forever looking over them and helping to guide them to a happy life and good loving relationship between them.
Because both the man and woman have the Christian connection between them they feel that they truly belong to each other and they can both contribute to the relationship in such a way that both will benefit. Their is no competition for each partner to outdo the other. And all chores are delegated in such a way that the whole family will benefit.
Love is the key that holds the Christian couple together with each partner wanting to help the other out when anything goes wrong. They know that their relationship will face tests and they discuss these tests and ask God for Gods Guidance and love in these times of need. This is true love. True love is when two people can reject all offers of temptation knowing that they would throw away one of the greatest gifts that God can give them – the gift of true love and a secure relationship that will last.
True love is one of the marvels of nature blessed with love from Heaven. All the wonders of nature could not compete with love blessed from God for this is a connection between two people who feel deeply for the others care and want the best for the other which in turn equalises the relationship so that they are both complete as one, never to part, only to blend in Heavenly harmony.
If you do not have this type of relationship then you may want to consider having God bless your relationship or if you are alone God will match you up with someone of the opposite gender. I totally believe that all you need to do is be patient, be honest and good and you will get the relationship that you want.
To be prepared for romance you need to be totally independent as a person “before” you even attempt to get into a relationship with the other sex. Your confidence in yourself must be good, you need to have a strong belief in yourself and what you are capable of before you have any wistful thoughts of courting. To build a relationship on two strong sturdy boulders is better than building it on unsure ground.
Males and females have this inbuilt need to have a family. Many people today try to deny this need, which in most cases causes them to wonder often “What is missing from my life?” and keep trying to fill their life with worthless worldly items in an attempt to fill this nagging need. To deny this need is to deny yourself one of the wonders of the universe – a happy family. People who you can rely on and who will love you for who you are and not what society expects of you. People to pick you up when you have fallen down. Nothing of this physical world can take the place of true spiritual love between two people of the opposite gender and still have the same meaning and joy.
In order to have a happy family both partners need to be fully ‘at one with themself’ before they move into the complex mingling of two souls aiming to spend their lives together, bringing up children, while dealing with life’s normal everyday demands. If you can accept that life itself can be a complicated struggle at times then you can understand how adding a relationship to it will obviously cause some complications. This is why we need to be as ready as we can before we tempt ourselves with the wonders and delights of the opposite sex.
My suggestions for youngsters (teenagers) would be for them to be fully content in their future and goals, earning a wage, be out of debt and then maybe consider entangling themselves with the opposite sex. Its common sense to be sure of yourself before you intend to take on something so unlogical as courtship. By being prepared you can take note of the relationship problems that you may have and dealing with them carefully with ease. Of course the opposite is true if you are not prepared, you stumble and fall between relationships hoping that each will be the last until you finally get tired of the whole thing, then after a period of time you start again and on it goes…
What I want for you is for you to understand that courting and marriage can be joyful experiences filled with the wonder and joys of being with someone that you genuinely love and care for.
When I speak of both people being independent I am not speaking of selfish independence which is highly promoted these days as ‘looking after ones self’, no, I am speaking of each partner having the total confidence in themself to the extent that when they start dating they will be sure of what the outcome will be while being careful and decisive. One must be careful when giving away something so precious as the love that they hold in their heart to another person in such a deep sensitive manner as true love. One must also be sure that the one that they are ‘giving their all to’ is really the person that wants them for ‘better or worse’.
How can you be sure? By being totally in control of yourself first before you make any attempt to find a partner. I am not saying that you have to ‘play it cool’ or try to act like the other person does not mean anything to you. This must be done with a genuine want to succeed.
Asking for a date:
There is always some unknown territory when one is asking a woman out for a date. The man should be the one to do this, but a woman can strike a conversation with a man if she wants to but discretion is called for in situations like this. If the man is shy then he needs to find a way to deal with this situation. The male should consider all he knows about the woman that he want to take out.
Are his intentions good?
Is she really a nice girl?
What’s the worse that could happen if he asked her out?
Love should not be governed by what each person owns, or by personal status, or reputation. Love is a feeling that is in the heart and soul of the two persons who want to be with each other. Other influences like relatives, work mates should have no bearing on the commitment of two people to try to make their relationship work. A man who is considered of a lower class than a woman should not let that put him off making proper advances to a woman of a higher class. Two people with different religious faith could have problems with their relationship. If both have a deep respect for each others faith then they could work out the relationship but this respect should be there from the beginning.
There is a bigger picture that should be considered by the two trying to make a commitment toward each other. Other peoples thinking should always be considered but not heeded if those in love are being hurt by them and that they hold no common sense. Love is one of the most hard to figure out essences on this planet. There are some rules but they must be obeyed for success.
First establish that you have a chance. Do this by talking to the other person and finding out if they are available. If not then be gracious and happy that they are happy.
Be totally honest in your feelings for the other person. Don’t try to be dishonest because you will be caught out sometime later. Let your heart guide you with common sense looking down keeping an eye on the progress that is taking place.
Then pursue the relationship with honesty and love as the basis of the new friendship that you intend on becoming a reality.
“I would like to see you more often if that’s alright by you?”
“Yes”
“Could we meet for coffee in town or picnic at the park?”
“Yes”
Think of the positive advantages and not let the negatives take away your focus for a happy life.
Sometimes people are unconsciously or deliberately not being obvious that they are actually taken. I remember meeting a nice lady who worked in an office and I found that we got on very well. She had two rings on her right hand but no rings on her left hand. To me that showed that she was available. We met two times and talked and joked, she always talked as if she were alone and not in a relationship. We got on fine and whenever I left we were both always laughing and happy from our conversation. We seemed to have a lot in common and we liked to be around one another.
When I was due to see her a third time I decided to ask her if she was interested in having a cup of coffee with me in a cafe so that we could get to know one another and maybe further our relationship which always was happy even though we had recently met each other.
First though I decided to take my own advice and ask a few questions to be absolutely sure that she was single and interested in a relationship at this point in time. To my total surprise I found out that she was living with a man and that they had been together for the past year. It was obvious that she was not keen on mentioning him, maybe this was part of the self-image thing that is a leftover from woman’s liberation and the sexual revolution of the past. In other words she favoured talking about herself as an individual and not part of a relationship even though she was in a full relationship with a man. He wasn’t part of her, he was just with her. After I went home I thought that she was playing an unfair game by not having some sort of clue on her left hand to show that she was not available to the advances of other men.
To be more fair to males and females who don’t already have partners or are not married yet there needs to be an agreement where all those who are in any sort of relationship, this includes those who are going steady, wear some sort of ring to show that they are committed to some degree to a partner of the opposite sex. This would stop a lot of confusion and would allow those who are in relationships to proudly display their affection for their partners.
Back in the fifties and sixties young woman wore a ‘pin’ or a ring on a chain around their neck which was given to them by their boyfriends. We need this kind of commitment today from males and females. It seem wise for both the male and the female to wear some sort of friendship ring to show that they are already taken. Maybe some sort of male engagement ring could also be designed for this purpose, it would naturally have a more masculine look but it would signify that the male is engaged and off limits to other females.
A woman is supposed to have that spiritual connection with her child, she is ‘part’ of her child, this is a deep spiritual connection between a Mother and child. If a woman has a child for the wrong reasons (maybe some form of self interest etc.) then she will not have that spiritual connection with that child. A man and woman are supposed to have the same spiritual connection which will connect them for their entire lifetime. But if either person has more interest in themself and not their partner then they will never fulfill the needs of the other partner. It also means that the self interested person can easily leave the relationship because he or she does not have that spiritual connection which is needed to complete the two people as one. We all know that this spiritual connection exists because we hear about it or have met people who are in that type of relationship, or have felt it ourself.
This explains why some people who are only interested in themselves never seem to find happiness, because it is impossible for a selfish person to ‘make that spiritual connection’. Have a look at the couples in Hollywood that get together in a flash of love and then they are in the tabloids because they have split up. Many Hollywood stars become arrogant and self important, when this happens to them they lose their ability to connect with a person of the opposite sex, even their old partner. Their self image created by their fame as a Hollywood star ‘pushes’ out their old partner until finally they believe that they can live without their old partner and this is what happens and they move on and ‘do the Hollywood scene’ dating many other people of the opposite sex until they finally settle down with somebody but it never lasts. Remember looks can be deceiving.
Love is a universal thing, you need to believe in it, soak yourself in it, act on it, be a living breathing part of it. Eat, breath and sleep on it – Love is the answer to all the worlds problems. If you are a Christian then you should know that God created the earth for mankind as an act of love.
How can you tell the difference between a worldly and non-worldly relationship introduction?
If there is any sign of physical attraction then there is a chance the relationship is worldly based. I will explain it like this. If a woman stares at a mans muscles, lips, pelvis, navel, virtually anywhere on a mans body then she is thinking far beyond spiritual love, she is wondering what this man can offer her physically and the same goes for males. I am not attempting to lecture you to take away what you may think is the fun of life. What I am trying to explain to you is something that I have seen in action.
There can be a way to tell if somebody is really the choice for you. I will endeavour to explain how you can tell here. Please be patient and read it through before you make any judgments, if you are in any way confused then please read it again.
First a person needs to abstain from romantic and physical (sexual) company of the opposite sex for at least a few months while they are getting their life in order. If you get into a relationship and you are working with a self help book or a course of the same sort of advice then a relationship will only confuse the issue. It is far better to be mentally prepared and confident when you make honest advances to the opposite sex. You need to be mentally prepared, if you do this then your common sense and intuition will help guide you.
It works, in a way like ‘love at first sight’. You go on with your daily life and then one day you will notice somebody of the opposite sex who will also notice you. You will smile at each other and as the day or night goes on you will approach the other person and talk to that person. Because you are mentally prepared for courting by building your self confidence first you will be looking at the wider picture and not looking for a quick satisfying night with someone. You will notice their face, something about that person will keep you looking at them. You may even try to ignore that person but you cannot seem to control yourself, all this time you will not even be interested in that persons body.
Your only interest will be the way that you cannot seem to tear your eyes away from that person and you will want to be near him or her. Once you have both met you can then work on the rest of the relationship. But because you are both confident then the relationship will start on a good foundation.
Example of getting together the wholesome way:
Imagine two people walking side by side: This is the start of the relationship. Both people seem to like each other, they talk, joke and have fun. This is the playful, innocent beginning. As life starts with innocence, true love also starts with innocence because it is young, new and fresh. Loves blissful birth is the start of a good relationship, and loves growth strengthens the couple for the road ahead. These are the first steps young love should take, there may be a few stumbles along the way, but true love will always rise to the occasion to finally walk the chosen path that those who are truly in love can walk. Verbal tenderness starts here.
Now the two people walking side by side hold hands: This is the next step. They are now courting. They have both acknowledged that they like each other and are willing to commit to the relationship publicly. They tell their friends. They feel that they long to be in each others company and as time goes by the feeling gets stronger. Loves path is getting smoother.
He puts his arm around her waist and she does likewise to his: They are now engaged to be married. The commitment is now mature and they are willing to tell their parents and state in the newspapers that they are in love and want to go further than just being good friends. The newspaper announcement will notify all those who may have been interested in either partner that the game is now only between these two, all other offers will be rejected. They only have eyes for each other. Both have decided that they want to spend their entire lives together enjoying the fruits of the planet and all that it has to offer.
They kiss: They have just been married. This is the big event, the covenant between God and two people joined in Holy matrimony, their golden rings will link their hearts forever. The innocence has just grown up. Both have waited patiently for months or years for this moment. Nobody can interfere now as they are now fully committed adults staring down the tunnel of love in eager anticipation. This is the reward for all the waiting. After the waiting this event actually means something, much more than if they had not waited. There are many plans to be completed, all the plans that they made before they were married. This is the exciting part when all those dreams become realities.
Of course there are the responsibilities but they are prepared because they were two confident, assured adults who committed themselves with their hearts and souls to the relationship. In their maturity they will look after each other for better or worse and enjoy the fruits of their labours – their children.
Once a person is confident about themself and they are willing to wait with the full confidence that they will find true love they lose all the desperateness to find that so-called elusive love that the pop songs croon about. Rest assured true love is available to everyone – if they want it and care to prepare themselves properly.
All the above steps have been known to take place in weeks, months or even years. For some people they can make up their minds very fast, for others it takes more time to come to the final mutual conclusion. But whatever the case I must stress that its the verbal connection that happens first, after that is the spiritual connection and then finally the physical connection. The Three Steps To Heaven are as follows.
Step 1: Verbal Connection. Talking and getting along with each other with ease. Both feel that they have many thoughts that are connected. They have many of the same beliefs and wants. This is when they learn all they can about each other.
Step 2: Spiritual Connection. This is when the two share their inner thoughts and dreams. They feel each other getting closer and neither one wants to stop what is obviously happening. This is the unexplainable connection that pulls two people together like the tractor-beam used in outer space movies. Its power is beyond all human interference. Its power is beyond all human explanation. They stare into each others eyes searching for that soulful connection.
Step 3: Physical Connection. This is when the two can enjoy the physical feelings that they have for each other with no bounds to stop them. The kiss of true love is like fine wine that has matured with the trials and struggles of the path that gets them here.
Step 1 is the cake mix. Step 2 is the finished cake, and Step 3 is the icing on the cake. To get that special love just remember the three steps for your VSP – Very Special Person – Verbal, Spiritual, and Physical.
Christian people should never shy away from the physical connection that God invented for them. Its Gods gift for them to enjoy in harmony after the connection of marriage.
When you are searching for true love trust your instincts.
Love between a man and a woman is an achievement, something that is acquired that is lovely in its infancy, powerful in its surge for perfection, and truly fulfilling in its maturity. I can feel a great want in my heart to have my soul blended with the woman who will receive my lifelong love. I long for that feeling of belonging to somebody else. I know that in my personal heart I have so much to offer, through out my life I have tried to give this love to woman but they have spurned it while at the same time I was not mentally prepared for them. I believe that I am ready now. What I have learnt is that a man cannot give his heart to a woman who is not prepared to receive his love with the same affection that he has in his own heart.
If only one partner has love in their heart then they are always struggling with a partner that has other views and affections, this relationship will never work because both partners are on different mental tracks. Both people in love must be like minded in affection and love. Imagine two train tracks running parallel to each other and one train zips off in different directions while one train always stays in the same straight line trying to keep the harmony of the relationship stable. It just won’t work, both trains – or humans must have the same beliefs about the relationship. Its no good finding out what each other believes in after the relationship is secured in marriage.
This is why two people of the same culture can get married and live together easily for the rest of their lives. They both have been brought up with very similar beliefs so it makes it easier for them both to see eye to eye on most issues. This may also explain why people of different classes (status in society) sometimes struggle to stay married. This is why a good verbal relationship should be the start of a relationship. Both people can spend many hours, days and weeks getting to know each others likes, wants and needs. If both people are mentally stable and strong in confidence (both know what they want in life) then they will be able to call off the relationship before it gets to serious.
When two people love each other they will be there for each other when the chips are down. The physical relationship they have is only a small part of the relationship, and anyone who bases true love on that is sadly missing the greatest gift God gave man and woman other than children.
For centuries people have been attempting to work out what love is. Not many people have really come close to it, but we keep trying. Most scientist tend to break it down to chemistry. They note chemical reactions between people, breaking it down to physical feelings with no spiritual connections. Hollywood seems to have the same thoughts as the scientist with most movies showing thoughtless sexual relationships between people giving few thoughts towards the spiritual side of real love. What they call sensual is supposed to be tender physical love which misses the mark by miles. Of course movies are visual so Hollywood needs to ‘show’ us what they define love as in a physical-visual sense. Science hasn’t yet devised a way for you the viewer to ‘feel’ the spiritual love of the actors, which the actors won’t have anyway because they are just acting the parts out. Real love is a concept that has confused many people. The music industry has tried to define love or maybe the heartaches that come from fallen love for may years.
Love is a mystery that escapes the imagination of many people in today’s modern society who prefer to ‘feel’ and ‘touch’ rather than sense what love really is. One thing that is sure about love is that only those who are truly in love or who have been in love know what love really is. Sadly billions of people think that they have been in love and think that the experience that they felt is the real thing. Its been a mystery for centuries for poets, writers, movie producers/directors, composers how to get love across to the worlds masses. We all know that life on this planet is doomed without love. Love is the glue that holds the communities of this planet together.
Doubt it? Take love away and you have only hatred, dishonesty, greed, selfishness and a lot of unhappiness. It is obvious that this is all that we would have left in a world without love. Sounds dark and lonely doesn’t it? If all people were greedy and selfish life for the human race would be much like hungry sharks fighting ferociously for something to eat. Each one wanting the food for its own pleasure, and willing to devour the other sharks if they get in the way. Have you ever seen a sharks dark, cold eyes? Picture it in your mind. Well, that is the look that your husband or wife would give you before going to bed at night in a world without love. Kind of makes you shiver at the thought doesn’t it? We don’t want the world to turn out this way, so we must do our part by having loving, caring relationships and be good friends to other people.
We obviously want the opposite to a bad uncaring world, we want friendship and sharing, love can supply that to the human race but we must want to bring love into our lives. On the side of love we have caring, happiness, sharing. Love is the essential ingredient that will keep this world a happy place to be in. We humans need other humans, its the way that we are, and since we need other humans we want to keep our relationships friendly and meaningful, laced with a love for mankind in general. Sadly it appears that many in this modern world get only a small dose of real love while they fight for survival in a world based on the self-image. People marry and tend to live a partial relationship based on both their ‘wants’ in a very fractional way, love broken up between His Time, Her Time, and the Children’s Time. Love was meant to be continuous throughout the family, it never sleeps, it never rests. Its there forever.
What gives me the right to state the above? The proof of so many divorces and children suffering from bad parenting. Sure not everyone is like this, but many are, and the epidemic is not slowing down. Reports are appearing all around the world noting the lack of trust and love in families and school environments. A new look at what love really is, is needed. A bit of logic is also needed. We, the human race need love to survive, its not just about what we can gain physically for ourselves while we are alive. Its also about who we can love spiritually while we are alive. Love is not just about chemicals or a physical moment between two people for a brief amount of time during their life.
I can define love as a ‘feeling’ physical and spiritual, but without the spiritual feeling of love, the physical love cannot exist. When two people who care for each other cuddle they share a tender loving moment, this appears to be a purely physical thing, that is how it looks to the human eye. But the feeling between these two people goes well beyond the physical feeling. If this were not true then anyone could cuddle someone, even a complete stranger and get that same feeling, which you know as well as I do that they will not get that same tender feeling from a stranger.
I have just successfully and rationally explained to you what love is to some extent. Before I knew what real love was I thought it was mostly based on the physical feeling we get when we are close to a member of the opposite sex or a kiss or cuddle from a family member. My childhood did not have a lot of true love feeling in it. We had fun, companionship sometimes, but we lacked that special ingredient that holds people affectionately together. I fear that many families are facing this problem, yet don’t realise that there is a problem. You don’t know what you are missing unless you know what it is, that you are missing. This makes it hard to explain real love to people who have never felt the spiritual gift of love. You have to ‘be in it’ to know that it exists or to have ‘had it’ to know exactly what it is that you will be getting again. Its like food in a sense, you can never want an ice-cream if you have never had an ice-cream. You need to have eaten an ice-cream to know whether you like it and want more. The same can be said of true spiritual love.
How can we find love in our lives? If you look for bad in the world, then that is what you will find. We need to look for love wherever we go. There are many forms of love available to you. It appears that the people of this modern world are only getting a few of these ‘forms of love’ while more love is easily available. But to get it you have to open your heart up to everyone around you. Love cannot ‘get into your heart’ unless you let it. The same applies for ice-cream. Ice-cream cannot get into your mouth unless you open your mouth. True spiritual love cannot get into your heart unless you open your spiritual heart to people. You notice that I am speaking of the spiritual heart and not the physical heart. You no doubt would have heard of the ‘heart’ spoken of in this way sometime during your life. You can count on love for its durability and depth. But only if you know what love is.
Love can hurt, but only when it is gone, or you miss someone that you love. If you don’t have real love then it can hurt you when the other person does something to hurt you, but someone who really loves you will not try to hurt you. True love does not allow for deep hurt. In a relationship between two people of the opposite sex only one can love the other, this is possible. One of the two can be selfish while the other truly loves that person, this will eventually be a relationship that turns sour and one person will have a broken (spiritual) heart, while the other walks carelessly away. I would hazard a guess that the selfish person has never felt true love, which is truly sad.
In order to not get hurt you can do this. You can trust God to find the right partner for you. This really is an available option for you and it really works. Many people will vouch for this guaranteed method of finding true love. All you need to do is be open minded enough to pray and ask then ‘let it happen’. You have to be worthy of the person that God chooses for you, this is the hard part. Like anything on this planet, in order to gain something you have to earn it. To gain true love and your chosen partner for life you have to make yourself a good loving person first. The wait is not easy either. Some people who claim success with this method claim to have waited years for their true love. Some only wait months.
Of course God cannot find you the perfect partner if you have a cold unloving heart. God will honour your wishes if you put in a genuine effort to gain your true love. I like to see it this way, would you help somebody who won’t help themself? What’s the point of helping somebody who doesn’t want to help themself? No point at all, because they will never really appreciate the gift that you give them. So you see, we cannot expect God to help us if we do not help ourselves first. God shouldn’t give you a good woman or man if you are not going to appreciate that person for the goodness that they are.
In order for you to succeed you have to have the same thoughts of love that God has. God will not match a good man with a bad woman or visa versa. You have to understand this if you want the perfect match for you. If you have dishonest thoughts of love then you will not obviously be matched with somebody good, you could possibly be matched with somebody with your own dishonest thoughts though – Do you want that? I believe that God will match you with the right partner when you have reached a certain amount of growth as a good person, this may take some time and it depends on you, not God. Your effort is your gain. Gods ways are logical. If you are willing to look and try to understand you will find this logic and live by it.
If our love is only physical then it explains why some of us have difficulty loving God who’s love for you is truly spiritual and non-physical.
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