An unemotional narcissist abuser has no problem with her anger, but she has a problem with your anger, especially if you are using your anger defending yourself against your abuser.
No matter how the abuser treats others and feels that she has the right to treat others that way, she believes that the use of anger, lies etc are for her use only.
And she spits out the dummy and can have a tantrum if she finds out that you have lied to her.
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The first line of defense against such an abuser is to not be sensitive and take offense at the abusers personal emotional attacks on your character.
Learn what “tools” that the narcissist uses to defeat people, and then when you recognize one being used against you, simply ignore it and carry on with your strong argument in your self defense.
“Don’t ever be ‘sensitive‘ when dealing with a narcissist type, they have few feelings and don’t give a hoot about your tears or hurt feelings, so don’t be fooled.
Remember always that the greatest tool to defeat an abuser is distance, lots of it, to a safe haven that you know that your abuser is afraid of.
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All abusers/narcissists are frightened of an honest person. They cannot comprehend the ways of honesty and truthfulness, so they fear honesty and truthfulness because they know that they cannot defeat an honest person.
And like all hunters and predators, they fear what they cannot control and cannot defeat.
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All abusers/narcissists will always go to extreme extents to keep their victims away from honest truthful people (even using seclusion), because the abuser/narcissists know that the good person will care enough to expose the abuser/narcissists behavior to the victims, and set the victims free, in doing so give them courage to stand up against the abuser/narcissists and control their own lives.
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All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Thursday, 10 March 2016, 3:31:09 PM.