If we think logically about the average day. There must be a percentage of daily mistakes and a certain amount of success in every persons life.
We might drop something, or trip, or accidentally upset someone, or stand on someone’s foot, forget a anniversary etc. Life is made of these things and our successes.
I wonder at the times in the past when I was having a good day and then I would do something wrong, and then allow the mistake to ruin much of my day.
When we do something right we smile, possibly we may give ourselves a mental pat on the back and think and say something positive.
“Why do we use so much of our day thinking of what went wrong?”
What happens is that we allow the mistake time in our mind to grow and grow. A mistake cannot haunt you unless you allow it time in your mind.
We should acknowledge the mistake, and also think what we should do to make sure that it doesn’t happen again. Then we should get on with our day doing what we need to do.
A lot of unhappiness is removed from our life when we gain control of our mind.
There are many reasons why we may allow ourself to dwell on bad thoughts or mistakes.
A person may complete five tasks successfully during a morning, and then at lunchtime make one mistake and then think that the day has been a failure. Can you see that having a good attitude helps here?
If the day has in fact been a good one, but you allow one mistake to ruin it all then you can see here that your way of judging your day is wrong and misleading.
Common sense is needed.
We need to not want to be so harsh on ourself.
We need to want to have a good day.
We must understand that a mistake is an unintentional event – if you didn’t do it deliberately then you are not guilty.
Even if we did something wrong in the past, if we were in the wrong mental state, or unwell, then what we did was a mistake. If we were following the crowd aimlessly, lost and foolish, what we did was a mistake.
We know that other people can get through their own day in a confident mature way, and this evidence proves that you can too.
All the best from James M Sandbrook.
Wednesday, 23 October 2013, 11:24:58 AM.