To stand alone and think for ourselves can be a struggle. At home our parents say that we must act a certain way.
At work we are told to behave in a way that satisfies the customers and the boss, but it isn’t the natural you.
Our friends want us to act like them so that we can fit in the crowd, and because we are always taught to conform to keep others happy, and because we desire acceptance we follow their friends example so they will like us. We feel unconfidently that we are unworthy if we are not popular.
What should be encouraged from early childhood is that we develop our own character. Our parents should have a desire to see what natural interests and hobbies we will have. There should be no force or pressure to be like mother and father of anyone else.
Today if you live in a country it is accepted that you will support certain national things to be patriotic etc. In New Zealand it is expected by most that you must like rugby as a sport to play or to watch. Rugby is the national sport. It is on TV, radio, billboards, newspapers, magazines, clothing, everywhere. Rugby can’t be avoided in New Zealand. This is a form of brainwashing and grooming.
Children in New Zealand get soaked in Rugby and they are taught to follow mums and dads blind enthusiasm for that sport. In other countries it is other sports.
Because sports brings in huge amounts of money for the government’s they support the national sports with enthusiasm.
To have our own children think for themselves we need to allow them to develop at their own pace, yet still be challenged. And we should explain to them what is happening in society, but in a non-judgmental way.
Home schooling is about this, but it can fail if the parents have past baggage and struggles.
Our children should be encouraged to stand up for themselves, while being the best that they can be according to what they want to be.
If honesty, charity, kindness and an understanding of life and of people is shown because of its obvious advantages then the chance of the child being a strong willed decent person is greatly increased.
If our young are taught to be honest to themself and truthful about their own feelings they will not tell themselves lies. They will grow up in courage with each new experience, they will find challenges exhilarating and a person who doesn’t lie to themselves will be truthful to themself about their strengths and weaknesses (no false pride and arrogance).
This child will love life and not be afraid of it. He or she will want to be the best that they can be, and not try to be anyone else.
He or she will want to be the best that they can be according to their true nature, gender, abilities, talents, and they will know their own limitations and be wise enough to not disappoint themselves with unrealistic goals.
If we can teach our children how to think, how to desire answers and how to come up with honest results then they will not be sheep and supporters of Society grooming, instead they will challenge authorities for the good of others, and they stay strong and alone, if need be, to ensure public safety.
The world needs more people who think for themselves. Courage seems to be bred out of people these days and replaced with “blind acceptance of what authorities tell people”.
This is why I stress the need for children being able to grow up naturally, learning as they go. Thinking for themselves, and encouraged to progress at their own pace and developing creative, physical and mental skills.
We need thinkers not followers.
All the best from James M Sandbrook.
Tuesday, 23 September 2014, 12:18:16 PM.