The cause for the tears is inside us and needs to be released. But sadly sometimes with pride we can fight the emotional release (because we may feel that tears are a sign of weakness).
If we let the flow go forth we release the pain and this is where we gain. If we can understand our emotions and why we hurt and where we hurt emotionally, then we can gain from that and become more mature.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
November 29, 2012.