I was never taught about boundaries or saying, “No!” Young people, all of us, need to know that we are important, valuable, and that if we feel that something is not right, does not fit our beliefs, and just isn’t what we feel comfortable with, we should be able to say, “No!” and people should

A person will never be happy in the wrong company no matter how much he or she tries to fit in. Get it right and enjoy life, by being with those who are like you. Be with your tribe, your kind of people.    

People usually don’t like have to answer questions… liar or not, its just that they may not want to dig that deep to explain why they believe what they do… but in the case of liars – it could be they don’t want to share too much in case they forget what they told you

The only one truth is the truth that each individual believes. That’s why it’s easy to say someone is lying, because they don’t believe/perceive what we do. Regardless of whether we believe what another says or not, it’s truth to them. – Merna Dwyer. 15th of December, 2016.

Let your actions speak your heart, and not the will of others. ° Have the courage to stand alone for what you believe in ° Don’t believe the wild imaginations of others. ○ I walk around with emotional wounds and if I caress them (be understanding and nice to myself) gently they will go away.

A new challenge is here and it is going to be hard taking it on. We struggle, and those with a low confidence may feel that the struggle with the new challenge is a sign that they are weak. ○ We need to understand that real education is not what they teach people in schools.

Torey Hayden had to go away and leave the class for 2 days, her 6 year old troubled student Sheila was very upset about this, and after getting upset with Torey because Sheila thought that Torey was “leaving her” like her mother did, Sheila vomited. For many, being under stress causes them to be so

Torey Hayden and Chad took Sheila off to buy her first pretty dress after they had won the court case for Sheila’s freedom from a mental hospital. Sheila is 6 years old and had spent a life deprived of love and nice things. While choosing the dress Sheila said to Torey, “I wish you was

Torey Hayden’s school child Sheila was sexually abused. An uncle tried and couldn’t have sex with 6 year old Sheila so he cut her with a knife. She lost so much blood she was hospitalized and had to have surgery, the uncle was arrested. Torey Hayden amazes me with her understanding of people. She recognized

Torey Hayden’s class has the once badly behaved girl Sheila in it. Sheila burnt a small boy and the courts wanted her in a mental hospital (probably for many years), Torey, with the help of others worked together to fight for Sheila’s freedom in court. They knew that the mental hospital would destroy all the

Torey Hayden, as a teacher, had decided that no one’s worth, in her class, was ever going to be decided over the paperwork that the child had done. The true value of the child was the complete child. And each child’s true value could never be measured on paper because children change from day to

Torey Hayden is a person who reminds me of myself. She gets upset at herself where other teachers would have punished a child, feeling justified, then forgot the whole incident. But not Torey, neither me. My father and mother were not good parents, both bad examples of parenting. Because of that I struggled deeply as

Torey Hayden had an interesting story about “a paper war”. Being a teacher she let her love, motherly instincts, instincts as a woman, etc be pushed aside to let the cold hearted common sense and logical teacher come out. ° 6 year old Sheila refused to do paperwork. She would destroy paper at before her

Torey Hayden had a helper called Whitney. Whitney struggled with confidence, blaming herself for things that went wrong. One day she did a foolish thing and when she got into trouble her mother game to Torey’s classroom totally freaked out and dragging poor Whitney like she was a little girl. Poor Whitney was devastated and

Even though everything right now may seem hopeless or a continued struggle we know deep down that it can be better, because life is better for other people. All the past brought you to who you are today and the character that you have. Your reaction to life is a result of your past. From

Today we have a new modern religious attitude that “all was done by Jesus” and all we have to do is be saved, and pray and everything will be alright. All around the world the religious hide in churches being very ineffective. Why is evil winning? Because God’s people are foolishly divided, and foolishly proud

To make good choices we need to be able to stop the clutter going on in our head, be as calm as we can and try to make the right choice that we won’t regret later. Before you even think about making a choice you need to believe that you are capable of making the

To stand alone and think for ourselves can be a struggle. At home our parents say that we must act a certain way. At work we are told to behave in a way that satisfies the customers and the boss, but it isn’t the natural you. Our friends want us to act like them so

“True love is two people willing to work around each others problems until each ones “ups and downs” become their interesting characters.” Having love, being love makes us complete to fulfill our destiny together. Two are better than one. Two makes life sharing so much more important and fun. Sharing life with someone else becomes

When my daughter Tracey was about 3 weeks old she was very sick. Up to that age, for her whole 3 weeks of life she kept throwing up her milk. Finally she was losing so much weight she had to go to Hamilton City to the Waikato Hospital, about 3 hours away. I got a

“This too shall pass” is one of my favorite quotes. === “The legend of the quote finds its roots in the court of a powerful eastern Persian ruler who called his wise men to him, including the Sufi poet Attar of Nishapur, and asked them for one quote that would be accurate at all times

 Rather than facing the facts a person can go into a comfortable denial that soothes the lies that they prefer to believe rather than facing the truth that they are afraid of. ° Symptoms After the initial shock has worn off, the next stage is usually one of classic denial, where they pretend that the

If we think logically about the average day. There must be a percentage of daily mistakes and a certain amount of success in every persons life. We might drop something, or trip, or accidentally upset someone, or stand on someone’s foot, forget a anniversary etc. Life is made of these things and our successes. I

Things may not be going well for you right now. The future may look impossible, and like it is never going to progress. Something is not right. And this disappointed feeling is draining you of happiness. We can become so “clouded” in our misery, self-pity, disappointments etc, that we cannot understand what is really happening

“They will hate you if you are beautiful. They will hate you if you are successful. They will hate you if you are right. They will hate you if you are popular. They will hate you when you get attention. They will hate you when people in their life like you. They will hate you

 Take a word for instance. If we understand that word wrong, then in our misunderstanding of that word, we will react to it wrong. I once called a young lady a “bambino” and because she misunderstood the word “bambino” she had a fit at me. When she calmed herself down I explained that it is Italian

When we have family and friends who don’t believe in God, they will find ungodly ways to remove things that they feel are problems “for them”. They do not believe in the values that you believe in (regardless of what they say), so please don’t expect them to do things in a fair honest way

When something comes up that you don’t want to do, but you know that you need to do, a thought to keep in mind is that there will always be things that happen that we don’t agree with and that we don’t want to happen – but we learn to live with such situations. Sometimes

When people want someone, they will make a voluntary effort to be with that person or to see that person, ring, text etc. No person ignores who they love. It is unnatural to ignore people we really care about. Love is a word that has a magnetic affect on the people who are in love,