Your Walk With God!
Part of becoming independent and choosing for yourself is chucking the invisible chains that other people have on us, some from tradition, some family, some cause, some from Narcissist types, it can be very hard to notice that we are being controlled or are being guided by people to do their will instead of just doing what we feels right.
And some people sneakily use fears to control us or gaslighting, but once we realise it the next part in our spiritual growth is removing them from our life and coping without them. You could say, that each one of then is a part of our fake courage, and as we remove each person we have to the cope with our own courage and in doing this we become stronger, more capable, and when people try to manipulate or control us again we recognise what they are doing and we send them away.
For instance say a parent does all our decision making for us, and that makes us fully dependant on them, in their control and them choosing what is best for us according to their opinion.If we remove that parent from our life all of a sudden we realise that we must make choices for ourself and that can be fearful, but oh so rewarding in the end when we realise that we can stand up on our own two feet as strong as the parent or even stronger.
If we are with someone who always claims to be protecting us etc, and we remove that person from our life we need to learn how to cope with what w used to fear, get fitter, protect ourselves find positive healthy coping mechanisms.
Each person we depended on for something that w remove from our life brings about courage within us so that in the end we can stand strong on our own two feet
A good example of trusting God and thinking for yourself, is that you ask God for a sign, a strong sign, then you see it are 100% convinced that God has shown you the way, so you sit down with family and/or friends and tell them about it, and religious or not they tell you that you got it all wrong and that it was not a sign from God.
Confused, but your love them all is so strong and you want to show that you respect their opinions and views, and you are loyal to them, so you let their opinions drown out God and you do as they say. We can become so frightened that if we go against what people say that we will hurt them.
And we love them so we don’t want to hurt them, we want them happy, but we are not supposed to go without, hurt ourselves, deny ourselves true love, and our Blessed future just because they refuse to see the light, refuse to agree, or want us to go another direction etc, Love is not supposed to hurt,they are supposed to understand and want the best for you.
I was told years ago that the original thought that I had was the thought from God, not the thoughts or feelings after other people had told me their views.
So if you pray, are convinced, then stick with that because other people didn’t pray your prayer, they didn’t feel what you feel, they are not walking side by side with you and God, your walk with God is private, your journey yours, your guidance not theirs.
We can listen to them if we want to, then depart from them emotionally and do what we believe in even if they all disagree.
In the end God wants us to walk away from family and parent/parent figures, people who have so much influence over our lives that we cannot progress with God unless that influence is gone. What did Jesus say, we must dislike and depart from everyone to get to know Him.
”It is not as cold as it may seem.
Because we can struggle to hear our own inner-voice while other people’s opinions, guidance and rules are in our ears and mind often, it is our faith, love ad respect for them that can persuade us to stop, hesitate, go another way for us. God cannot guide us to our destiny if other people are pulling at us from many different direction and also our emotional bonds to them cause us to not step forth when God needs us to do so.
We all want advice, but when we are strong enough to not need advice we can run our own life.
We can think about something that we decide could be a great step forward for us, but after talking to family, parents, friends we finally decide not to do it, but God put the thought in our head first. I have seen people fall in love and then dislike the person due to other peoples interference, and this proved to me that the Mind can block out the love of the Heart. But if the Heart (your emotional feelings/bond to family and friends) and your mind work together the call of God can be ignored and life never gets better for you.
The best gift that you can give yourself and your life is the development of a mind that thinks for itself, does what it believes in regardless of what all other people think, even if it hurt their feelings, because you see, if you (or God) has an idea then you need to go with that idea if you really want to do so.Lets go back to the Wright Brothers examples, the best scientific minds of the day couldn’t make a plane, yet two bicycle mechanics did. If they had listened to family, friend,s experts, well, they would never have achieved what they did. This is why Jesus was trying to tell us to go with what we believe, and to follow God with all our hearts and souls and not let others come before God, because if they did they would lead us away from God’s will for us and our God give destiny.
All the best from
James M Sandbrook.
Wednesday, 30 October 2019, 1:53:01 PM.